Motherhood is such a powerful means for personal growth. It woke me up and propelled me in a direction I never even knew existed. It changed who I am and all for the better. The best advice I can give to any new mother is to put down the books, adjust your expectations, and never take any moment for granted.
[photo via mason dee photography]
I was thrilled when Annie reached out to me to ask that I contribute something to the ‘Mamahood Advice’ series. Motherhood has been one of the best, most rewarding, challenging and fantastic adventures that I have embarked upon and I am so excited for Annie as she joins the ranks.
With that being said, I thought long and hard about what type of advice to give Annie. I found that when I was pregnant everyone wanted to give me advice: from close friends & family to complete strangers at the grocery store who wanted to argue with me about the gender of our child based on their assessment of how I was carrying. Everyone has their favorite carrier, how to put your baby to sleep, and the best baby food, among many other things. What I found in all of this is very few people actually gave me advice about myself which granted might seem a little selfish, but I find that in order for me to be the best parent I can be, I need to make sure that I take care of myself. What I did take for granted was all of the changes that I was going through and how I needed to carve out some time to take care of myself in all this as well as our soon-to-be-baby. As mothers we tend to focus on everyone else than ourselves from the moment that we find out we are pregnant; we obsess about what we are eating, our weight gain, has the baby eaten enough, does the baby need a diaper change, does that rash mean anything, what’s for dinner, is the house clean – you get my drift. I found that for me at least, in the midst of all of that outward focus, a changing body, and a change in my role within our family, I got a little lost myself. All of these items are very important and worthwhile things to take the time and effort into figuring out what works best for your baby and family, but it is very easy to put ourselves on the back burner in pursuit of re-normalizing our lives. So with that, I have a few recommendations for ways to help find your way into this new phase by also taking care of yourself.
Becoming a new mom is both exciting and nerve racking. I think the one thing that has given me a lot of comfort, even before he’s here, is this comradery that exists between moms. I’ve been fortunate to see this throughout my pregnancy with mom friends I have and it has put me at ease. I’m excited for the friendships that may come about from having a new little one around. With that said, not all new moms find that type of support right away. Maybe you’re the first one in your circle to have kids or you just moved to an area and you don’t know anyone with kids. I wanted to put together a series of posts featuring other blogger moms and the advice they might have for a new mom (i.e. me!). I’m excited to see what they come up with over the next few months because I’m sure it will come in handy for me many times. Today, to kick things off, I asked my mom for her best advice for me. Here’s what she said…